As many of you know, my mom, Margaret Belding de Wetter, died July 11 after 95 years of living, 94 of which were wonderful. The last year of her life was tough on everyone as she slowly degraded in mind and body. She spent many arduous hours lying in bed, unable to do anything as her body shut down. I have grieved much in my life, but losing a mother is different. A friend of mine said, “When I lost my mom, it felt as if the world shifted.”
I, along with many are so grateful and thankful to God for my mom’s life. We are grateful she lived the life she did and we feel the same way about my dad who died 19 years ago. My brothers and I along with our families are so blessed we had the parents we did. That said, in the midst of gratitude, celebrating her life, being thankful her rough journey at the end is over, I for one am experiencing a litany of feelings, including deep sadness in the midst of the joy I have for her life.
I’ve recognized for many years that when life is full and then ends, it is not tragic. That said, the journey in grief we each take is unique. When families lose someone, I pray that members of the family will give each other the room and space to grieve in various ways and that the journey in grief for each will be honored by all. My family certainly has been doing exactly this. For me, our faith invites each of us to allow ourselves to feel the full range of emotions God has given to us, whatever those feelings might be.
In the midst of everything, this last week I have been reminded once again about the heart and spirit of the Chapel. Thank you for being so incredibly loving, kind and supportive. Regina and I have felt so loved and cared for since we arrived 9 years ago. Thank you. We are grateful!!! Thank you for showing us what it means to walk the talk as we all follow Jesus.
Robert – having recently lost my own mom I am painfully aware of the sense of loss you must be feeling. My sympathies and love to you and your family…I hope you find healing and comfort in the memories you have of her.
It’s impossible to describe the loss of a parent to anyone who has not lost one. The feelings surrounding that loss seem always to be unimaginably complex. So many things – good and bad – can bubble up to the surface that haven’t been thought about in years. Blessings on you and yours, Robert, as you experience the challenging grieving process. It indeed takes a great deal of time and patience to get through it. Allow Him to hold you in His comforting embrace! Thinking of you!
We are sad to hear of your mother’s passing. We did not get to know her well due to her health but we saw she was a classy and nice lady. A loss to all of us.